This started as a Twitter conversation among myself, Jonna, Nic, Marie Green, Jennie, and I'm sure quite a few others I'm not remembering, but you know what? Apparently some things require more than 140 characters to discuss. So let's talk about it here!
The main question is, did you or would you find out the sex of your baby before the birth?
As everyone here knows, we chose to find out at the 20-week ultrasound. Our feeling was that we would get that same moment of surprise, whether it happened then or 20 weeks later, and that it would be nice to know as soon as possible. I am not big on delayed gratification. I wanted to KNOW, and waiting for 20 extra weeks to find out when I could have known at any moment may have actually killed me.
Plus, for me, every little thing I can know about this little person before he's born helps me feel more bonded to him. Not that the fact that he is a boy means anything specific about what kind of person he will be, but just knowing that he IS a boy helps me envision him as a real little person, helps me connect with him in more concrete ways.
Also, I hated referring to the baby as "it" during the first half of pregnancy. I was SO GLAD when I could start saying "he" instead.
And, let's not even get started on how much easier it has been to get ready, buy clothes, and so forth knowing the sex of the baby.
All that said, I know that lots of people have very valid reasons for waiting to find out the sex, and I have absolutely no judgment about that whatsoever. This DEFINITELY falls into the category of a decision that parents have to make for themselves that has absolutely no bearing on anyone else.
BUT, I want to know, if you've had kids, did you find out in advance? Or if you think you will have kids, do you plan to find out in advance? And most importantly, WHY? What's the reasoning behind your decision? And, if you've made a decision about this in the past, do you think it was the right one, or do you wish you had done things differently?
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