I feel that it's worth pointing out right here at the beginning of this post the commuting injustice that I suffered this morning. I was running a little late, so I decided to take the bus instead of the Metro because the bus runs door to door and therefore saves me about 15 minutes in commuting time. I was waiting at the bus stop a full five minutes before the bus was scheduled to arrive. It did not arrive on time. It did not arrive five minutes late. It did arrive ten minutes late, with just enough time for me to barely make it into the office at the stroke of nine. Except that IT DIDN'T STOP. I made eye contact with the bus driver, she clearly saw that I wanted to board the bus, and yet she just kept on going.
I'm thinking of suing, is my point here. For emotional distress caused by cruel and unusual treatment on the part of a District of Columbia government employee.
Also, I wish everyone would stop calling Britney fat. Yes, she's lacking the extremely toned abs she used to have. But I still think her body looks great, and she is by no means fat, even if everyone is hiding behind saying that she isn't fat, she's just too fat for that outfit. Please, just stick to criticizing her performance--there's plenty of material there. No need to start getting personal.
Lastly, I have a wedding-related question for all of you. Say you're a bridesmaid in a wedding. If the bride asked you to pick out any dress you wanted as long as it was purple, and it didn't matter what shade of purple or the length of the skirt or anything else, as long as it was really purple and not blue or pink posing as purple, would you appreciate that? Or would it be easier/preferable for you to be told, "This is the dress I've picked, now just buy it in your size"? I ask because I have no problem doing it either way, so I want to do whatever will cause the least stress and pressure for the bridesmaids. And my bridesmaids are being too nice to answer the question honestly--they just keep saying, "It's your wedding, so whatever you prefer." But I don't have a preference. So, I'm turning to you for the honesty thing. Thanks! You guys are great.
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The Britney fat thing - I agree. I would LOVE to be that "fat." I'm starting to feel like a beached whale with all the talk about her being fat.
ReplyDeleteThe bridesmaid thing - It depends on the personalities of your bridesmaids. Some people like the freedom to choose, for others it's way less stressful to be given explicit instructions. What about them getting together as a group and deciding on the shade of purple and the dress design? That way they save you the decision, but they won't feel the pressure of being the only one who may choose something you don't like.
I feel like with purple there are too many shade of purple for it to look ok in a picture, myself.
ReplyDeleteI'd find a cheap dress online for everyone.
I like the idea of letting everyone choose. You could always tell them that you want to see the dress before they purchase it, to have the final say (people's perceptions of what is "pink or blue posing as purple" can be vastly different, for example). Plus, that way if someone is strapped for cash they aren't obligated to purchase some fancy dress, but if they want to buy a more spendy one, they can. :-) That's my opinion, anyway.
ReplyDeletei think giving them that freedom is nice. that way no one ends up with a dress they think looks awful on their body shape, etc. i had complete freedom as a maid of honor once, and it freaked me out - but that wedding she didn't even give me a color palette, just literally "whatever i wanted!" which was just too freaky and i was petrified i was going to get the wrong thing. but with guidelines (color = awesome guideline) i think that's great.
ReplyDeleteunless you have very non-picky bridesmaids who would rather not have to go shop for a dress, and would just like the simplicity of being told what to wear.
i'm so helpful.
I think you're safe either way. If you're going to pick the dress for them, just be sensitive to make the dress universally flattering for everyone's body types (a-line is always best) and budgets - cute sleeveless dresses are nice, but, then they also have to buy all the expensive underthings. If the only thing important to you is the color, let them choose their own dresses. It will look really cool and original!
ReplyDeleteOh, totally: her clothes are too small/short, but if she is "fat" I give up completely.
ReplyDeleteI like the color guideline, and I like the way you put it (about posing as) because I think that gives it focus. Not only is that fun to choose, and really nice for different budgets and for re-wearing potential, but also I went to a wedding recently where they'd done that, and it was very pretty and also very fun to look at during the ceremony, and everyone looked great, and the color variation was very pretty.
That bus story is exactly why I don't take the bus. The HORROR. And I would be too embarrased to say anything, so I would probably just get off at the next stop a mile down the road and RUN BACK to work.
ReplyDeleteI was in a wedding where the bride asked us to just pick out our own blue dresses (any kind). I thought it was kind of cool, and not awkward due to price, body type, etc.
I'd just let them pick, too. It's horrible wearing a dress that is unflattering on you but looks great on another bridesmaid. Horrible, I say! If they feel confused about types of purple, or perhaps styles that you think are fun, maybe find a few examples that you like that they could use as a general guide? Or at least give them a physical color guide, if you are worried about purples being too pink or too blue or too maroon. People don't see colors the same, and something I think is orange you might think is puke-brown or yellow.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what others have said - pick a particular shade of purple (maybe find a designer that offers a variety of dresses in one particular material?) and then they can pick the style they feel is most flattering.
ReplyDeleteTotally agree with the Britney thing.
ReplyDeleteAnd as far as bridesmaids go, don't try to be nice. Don't try to pick things that fit their bodies or heights or hair color. Just pick the color and style you want and tell them where to send their measurements. Seriously, they're going to hate them no matter how lovely they are (it's a bridesmaid's job to hate the dress) and you're going to drive yourself crazy otherwise.
I say, find a line that comes in purple and has multiple styles and tell the girls they can choose any style from that line. I think that will make it easier for all of you.
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