Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Three years in

Three years ago today, this happened:


Three years doesn't sound like a ton, but it also doesn't sound like newlyweds anymore. And I don't feel like a newlywed anymore. We have really built a life together, complete with a growing family. I've always wanted to have a baby, even before I knew Torsten--but getting to have a baby with him, particularly him, has been such a special and amazing thing. Of course I would love any baby--but having Torsten's baby, having the incredible experience of creating a brand new person who shares your genes and the genes of the person you love--it's just so COOL. Not to mention how fantastic it is to see the man you married become an amazing father.

Lots of people worry about how having kids will affect their marriage. I didn't really worry about it, per se, but I did wonder. And so far... well, on the one hand everything has changed, but on the other hand, nothing has. Our lives are totally different, our focus has changed, and we can no longer go to the movies whenever we want. But having a kid together has made us even more connected and deepened our relationship. And at the same time, we are still just us. We love each other as much as we ever did, or possibly even more, if such a thing can even be quantified.

I've always been happy with Torsten, but lately I've also just been really, really content. I love the hum and rhythm of our everyday life. Every day just feels peaceful and right.

This is our family now, three years in. I am so happy with where we are now. I can't wait to see where we go.


(Year One, Year Two)

9 comments:

Janssen said...

Happy anniversary! You two are such a lovely couple - I always like reading what you have to say about your marriage.

Pickles and Dimes said...

Happy anniversary! Without ever meeting you, I hope it's not too weird for me to say that I love your family.

KT said...

Happy anniversary! It's always nice to hear good things about becoming parents- often you just hear about the strain it puts on relationships.

Alice said...

happy anniversary!! you guys sure have had a busy 3 years :)

fairydogmother said...

Wow, you guys gave done so much in 3 years already! Happy Anniversary! (a day late)

Also, I love how the happiness just exudes from the screen in the photos you post. Whether it is you & Torsten, a family shot, or a shot of Montana it always seems like you guys are right where you should be, and life is good.

Christiana said...

Happy Anniversary to you both! So many wonderful gifts in your life in those three years.

The Tomball Three said...

I feel the same way ... 3.5 years in. Being content is really all you can ask for. I am so glad you have that and your little family is gorgeous!

Elizabeth said...

I don't even know how I didn't squeeze in an anniversary text in between everything else, but happy belated anniversary! Now that I know what an amazing couple you are in person, I can't imagine you having anything but happiness with each other.

Kandi said...

What a beautiful family! I am just getting my little family started (getting married in March) and its refreshing to read about how life changes can be so positive in a marriage. Happy anniversary.