tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post5039692580668097687..comments2024-03-26T04:27:54.485-06:00Comments on Du Wax Loolu: The one that got away?Jesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15942269316108576622noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-67842910676489549372010-03-10T10:36:34.833-07:002010-03-10T10:36:34.833-07:00Souley definitely had a thing for a white woman. B...Souley definitely had a thing for a white woman. But, if a Visa is all he was after, you'd think marriage yes, children not a chance. Maybe he actually does love his wife.<br /><br />I've seen plenty of white men who like Asian women, black men who like women with a little junk in the trunk ... let alone the leg-guys, chest-guys and so on. A lot of people I know (men and women) have a type and if it works for them, why knock it!Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-71869358816229895762010-03-09T12:04:53.163-07:002010-03-09T12:04:53.163-07:00Like swistle I was wondering too if white women ha...Like swistle I was wondering too if white women happened to be his type. But one thing you said that I love is that you did have a good relationship and no matter his motives, you never had reason to doubt the mutual feelings the two of your shared.Jummyhttp://ooof.ca/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-5083091151103647412010-03-09T12:02:10.304-07:002010-03-09T12:02:10.304-07:00Do you know if he lives in Senegal with his French...Do you know if he lives in Senegal with his French wife? <br /><br />I would think, too, that if he IS just more attracted to foreign women (as you said, France has a significant population of women of color), then he must constantly be battling the assumption that it's about a visa.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-25605671647156250112010-03-09T11:29:37.183-07:002010-03-09T11:29:37.183-07:00I have always been surprised by my girlfriends who...I have always been surprised by my girlfriends who have a "type." It just seems like you shut yourself off to so many wonderful people that way.Mollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09737883086499020291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-6266247767504947582010-03-09T10:09:56.990-07:002010-03-09T10:09:56.990-07:00As has been said already, maybe his preference is ...As has been said already, maybe his preference is just for white women. Or women from other cultures. It is interesting dating people from backgrounds different from your own--as you must know, having married a German. :)lizgwizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10907508137794025189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-2943411681600399862010-03-09T09:25:22.980-07:002010-03-09T09:25:22.980-07:00Alice: By "girls you know," you seem to ...Alice: By "girls you know," you seem to mean "white girls"?<br /><br />This is not a simple question of "taste" outside of history. Just ask your boyfriend about what it means to date a white woman, and how it would be for his folks if he took me (a Black American woman) home.<br /><br />Even (especially) within the U.S., this is so much about power...Jessica Krughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04644928078991939006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-80815180908369190332010-03-09T08:45:45.497-07:002010-03-09T08:45:45.497-07:00i was going to say the same thing as swistle - i k...i was going to say the same thing as swistle - i know a bunch of girls here in the states who ONLY date black men, for example. or my own boyfriend, who is asian, has only ever dated white women (and was born here / grew up in dc / etc). not to say there aren't plenty of senegalese men looking for a (white, marriage-able) ticket out of senegal... :-)Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-84395955457779841722010-03-09T08:43:03.888-07:002010-03-09T08:43:03.888-07:00I've only had one boyfriend in my life who was...I've only had one boyfriend in my life who was from the same country as me! I was born and raised in New Zealand and certainly had no desire to leave (yet here I am married to an Australian and living in Aussie). I didnt even intentionally date international men, it just happened to work out that way. <br /><br />My older sister dated an Indian man for years but always suspected he might be after an easy ride into NZ so she dumped him. Two years later he got permanent residency in New Zealand and the first thing he did was ring her and tell her he loved her for her.<br /><br />Sometimes things are innocent and joyful with no alterior motive. I'd choose to believe that if I was you.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07787260126425552298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-71416267310970304732010-03-09T08:35:01.862-07:002010-03-09T08:35:01.862-07:00What a thoughtful and well-put together post. As ...What a thoughtful and well-put together post. As usual, I dig your writing.<br /><br /><br />What impresses me the most about this post, I think, is that you realize the context for the "romantic" economy at work, here. It seems to me that all too many white women go overseas and think that suddenly, they are the hottest thing on earth, without thinking for a second about the history, the politics, the violence that underwrites such things. Of course, men all over the world exploit the hell out of this vulnerability (often the white women who don't fit into the Cosmo beauty ideal in their home countries and are thus often vulnerable to this sort of think)... The beach boys in the Gambia, or hell, the rent-a-dreads in Jamaica (who prey on middle- and upper-class sistas, too).<br /><br />I get a different experience when traveling... Since I have the generically "mixed" look, I am not approached for marriage so much as just sex. It has a lot to do with the way Brazilian women are perceived worldwide, and that I am often taken for Brazilian, especially in Angola. But, you know, Brazil is no one's ticket out of poverty, I guess...<br /><br />This is not to minimize your personal experience. It's just that none of us are outside of the matrix of history and power.Jessica Krughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04644928078991939006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-57560466251076510882010-03-09T08:26:14.354-07:002010-03-09T08:26:14.354-07:00Ah yes, I was 15 (!) when we lived in Dakar and I ...Ah yes, I was 15 (!) when we lived in Dakar and I vividly remember the many marriage proposals.missrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03595843215458849973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-35570683128217938012010-03-09T08:03:06.025-07:002010-03-09T08:03:06.025-07:00Oh, what a very thought-provoking topic! I wonder...Oh, what a very thought-provoking topic! I wonder if it could also just be what he's attracted to, like white U.S. guys who date one Asian girl after another.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-30141739620929524512010-03-09T07:50:16.467-07:002010-03-09T07:50:16.467-07:00I think that the realization that the people who h...I think that the realization that the people who have shaped our past have moved on will always cause us to pause and reflect - even if we've also moved on and know that the past was the past for a reason.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04793480432068543767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-4273825338887815352010-03-09T07:32:25.507-07:002010-03-09T07:32:25.507-07:00I found out on FB that Red was engaged to his new ...I found out on FB that Red was engaged to his new cougar of a girlfriend. I cared for about 3 minutes until I remembered how happy I am with Achoo.<br /><br />And you know what, regardless of his motives, he was an important part of who you are. Because if you didn't meet and date him, you wouldn't be who you are today. Every experience good or bad matters, because they make you who you are!Jerseyhttp://www.porkrolleggandcheese.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com