tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post4669734435130188546..comments2024-03-26T04:27:54.485-06:00Comments on Du Wax Loolu: How to be a grownupJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15942269316108576622noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-43182945602408881112008-07-18T22:04:00.000-06:002008-07-18T22:04:00.000-06:00I'm almost 31 and I often have to remind myself th...I'm almost 31 and I often have to remind myself that I am indeed a grownup with kids and a mortgage. I don't know that it ever gets easier.Kristiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06711250635865954102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-90012018701987928732008-07-18T13:33:00.000-06:002008-07-18T13:33:00.000-06:00I'm so glad you guys are talking about all these t...I'm so glad you guys are talking about all these things - regardless of whether or not you come to any 'real' conclusions. We know too many people who have gotten married recently without any type of thoughts or plan for the future. <BR/><BR/>Coincidentally, I was just thinking about baby names A LOT this afternoon - not for any particular reason, mind you.bren j.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09132628402113226709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-9769047274030370372008-07-18T13:13:00.000-06:002008-07-18T13:13:00.000-06:00The husband always says there are three things peo...The husband always says there are three things people should talk about and be compatible with before getting married: do you squeeze the toothpaste in the middle or roll the tube at the bottom? would you rather be hot or cold? are you a morning person or a night person?<BR/><BR/>Joking aside, sometimes you just have to take life events as they come. We were close with married for 5-years before having children plan but it's taken us almost 12-years to buy our first house.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09021149519641295915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-13312485733459593392008-07-18T08:57:00.000-06:002008-07-18T08:57:00.000-06:00I think I felt my blood pressure going up just rea...I think I felt my blood pressure going up just reading that. <BR/><BR/>I am not a planner. I've always been a "live in the present" sort of girl. But I admire your forward-thinking. I SHOULD worry about (or at least think about) the future more than I do.Stefaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10128238432671375399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-77435306132663720602008-07-18T07:08:00.000-06:002008-07-18T07:08:00.000-06:00IT's nice to hear that I'm not the only one who fe...IT's nice to hear that I'm not the only one who feels like I'm not 'adult enough' to have bought a house and all that nonsense. <BR/><BR/>And for foreclosures:<BR/>http://realestate.aol.com/<BR/><BR/>You can click the 'foreclosures' option and see what's available. Not sure how thorough it is, but it's interesting to look through.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-73053186195077217492008-07-18T05:49:00.000-06:002008-07-18T05:49:00.000-06:00I am planning out how I am going to afford an apar...I am planning out how I am going to afford an apartment while I am still on an intern salary...and in that light I am also trying to find a job. I am trying to put off thinking about 'real' adult issues (marriage, baby, house)and have fun where I am.emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09104896878750518834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-21839526369551620532008-07-17T23:20:00.000-06:002008-07-17T23:20:00.000-06:00Man... I feel like doing a PhD has put so much of ...Man... I feel like doing a PhD has put so much of these adult things on hold.Princess Pointfulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10911296163218358167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-51516294476103101052008-07-17T14:17:00.000-06:002008-07-17T14:17:00.000-06:00I am a Swistle Baby Names addict, and we have talk...I am a Swistle Baby Names addict, and we have talked names many times. We're fortunately roughly on the same page, although we have a few areas of disagreement. Oh, and I was totally going to call my future son Max about five trillion years ago. Grr!<BR/><BR/>We're skipping out on the house thing for now- neither of us have done enough travel, so we''re saving for a world trip (the world's quite far away from NZ...). Then we'll come back, buy house, work for a year (maternity benefits...) and make babies :-)Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15650652034813454379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-81498968582084089192008-07-17T14:11:00.000-06:002008-07-17T14:11:00.000-06:00I wish I were a better plan! I plan my outfit for ...I wish I were a better plan! I plan my outfit for the day while in the shower and then change my mind at least four times before I actually decide :) <BR/><BR/>I'd like to be planning my wedding...hopefully that might happen soon, but who knows. The boy is looking to buy something soonish, so those plans are also in the works. Exciting and scary, all at once!Lexilooohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06789424491788958854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-2792099623052167292008-07-17T12:51:00.000-06:002008-07-17T12:51:00.000-06:00The wedding is numero uno and then actually sellin...The wedding is numero uno and then actually selling our houses. We want out of these properties. But it boils down to the same thing - plans for the future and deciding where you want to be in 5 years, 10 years, etc.annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15439772399487069107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-66571339969847836992008-07-17T12:16:00.000-06:002008-07-17T12:16:00.000-06:00Good question. Definitely no babies. I think somet...Good question. Definitely no babies. I think something is wrong with me on that front. I'm 29 and I still don't want kids. I love kids. I just don't want that responsibility yet.<BR/><BR/>Probably trying to figure out what my next career move should be. And whether or not I want to move to another city.Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16323696998854147831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-37489634446997492642008-07-17T12:03:00.000-06:002008-07-17T12:03:00.000-06:00I'm pretty much where you were in college- plannin...I'm pretty much where you were in college- planning a potential move, picking programs and every other thing. I guess I should be happy that I'm not alone- but I can't help but thinking.. damn, this really isn't going to end?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-30195791104153708602008-07-17T11:40:00.000-06:002008-07-17T11:40:00.000-06:00Good Lord, all I'm planning for is how to save up ...Good Lord, all I'm planning for is how to save up enough money to get another tattoo.<BR/><BR/>I hear you on the house thing though. I was terrified to do it - but I had a lovely realtor, and I choose my bank based on which one was nicest to me. Stupid and girly- but I've yet to regret it.Princess of the Universehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15795441683354185317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-50948585486485570502008-07-17T11:27:00.000-06:002008-07-17T11:27:00.000-06:00TWO babies. Sell the house vs. go to grad school. ...TWO babies. Sell the house vs. go to grad school. Sigh. Most days I think "screw it" and go find some ice cream. <BR/><BR/>Speaking of names, got any girl names I can poach? I've got nothing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-41046054052336155002008-07-17T11:23:00.000-06:002008-07-17T11:23:00.000-06:00Damn, girl. I read this hoping you'd have some PO...Damn, girl. I read this hoping you'd have some POINTERS not QUESTIONS. Thanks for nuthin'. ;)Lizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13789093728950424015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-67629702429776056722008-07-17T11:12:00.000-06:002008-07-17T11:12:00.000-06:00We're trying to plan on refinancing now that the r...We're trying to plan on refinancing now that the rates are lower, but are running into a mortgage guy who won't call me back.<BR/><BR/>Also, we are planning on saving every dime we can because Jason is a magnet for bad luck financially (car broke down, $1,000 mouth guard for TMJ, etc., etc.).Pickles and Dimeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14552386798256895855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-55006300847255561452008-07-17T11:10:00.000-06:002008-07-17T11:10:00.000-06:00I agree with Nilsa. DO NOT BUY unless you are sur...I agree with Nilsa. DO NOT BUY unless you are sure you can stay there for 5 years. The market is awful, and with the still declining housing market, you'll lose tons if you buy for shorter than that. People think buying is financially smart. What they don't take into account:<BR/>- Closing costs (6k-8k usually) is money thrown away<BR/>- Property taxes is money thrown away<BR/>- For the first 5 or so years, almost every dime of mortgage you pay is interest, so you're throwing that money away to the bank<BR/><BR/>As for babies, take your time. I just read an article about how having kids is horrible on a marriage, and it lowers your happiness (I posted some of it on my blog). Make sure you two have some time together to just be young and free before having babies. I guarantee you won't regret it.<BR/><BR/>As for me...I spend a lot of time thinking about where we will end up. Portland isn't the end for us, as it's too cloudy for my husband. The east coast is out because of the hectic lifestyle, and the south is too...um...south! Maybe the southwest? But I've never even been there.Tiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01470163614190777624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-38677359395500837372008-07-17T10:56:00.000-06:002008-07-17T10:56:00.000-06:00I began reading all of these comments and started ...I began reading all of these comments and started to hyperventilate. I work in the arts and live in San Francisco which means that buying is out. I'm not even dating so planning a wedding or rather a marriage (which is what it sounds like you two have very wisely and responsibly done) isn't an option and I'm still terrified and having very strong negative reactions to children, so definitely no babies any time soon. Planning? What planning? I'm planning to take the train tomorrow. I'm planning to put do about 8 hours of work this weekend. I'm planning to go out drinking and dancing on Saturday night. I'm planning to get to Martin+Osa for their summer sale. But life plans? They're just really not an option.BShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00443151591518184608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-1151974655019721902008-07-17T10:53:00.000-06:002008-07-17T10:53:00.000-06:00Like Fiona above, I don't still don't feel like an...Like Fiona above, I don't still don't feel like an adult, even with three kids, a mortgage and a healthy retirement fund. I don't do a lot of planning, at least not a lot of long-term planning. There's too much that needs attention in the present to spend a lot of time on the future.LoriDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07646658618955664778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-64330580212025811252008-07-17T09:59:00.000-06:002008-07-17T09:59:00.000-06:00Ummm I am so not even answering that question righ...Ummm I am so not even answering that question right now. *sigh*Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13645215857071944428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-43322957562413130232008-07-17T09:53:00.000-06:002008-07-17T09:53:00.000-06:00Um, since we chat all day, every day, I'm pretty s...Um, since we chat all day, every day, I'm pretty sure you know what I'm planning. Which is, you know, EVERYTHING. Too. Much. Planning. But I love babies. In case I haven't said that yet today. <BR/><BR/>(Dude, where are you today?)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-56891685668391504312008-07-17T09:22:00.000-06:002008-07-17T09:22:00.000-06:00Um, planning for the future? Never ends. Never. We...Um, planning for the future? Never ends. Never. We're past the baby stage (thank goodness), we have a house, and cars that run. <BR/><BR/>Now we're planning for retirement in 20 or so years. And grandbabies, and college for the Minions, and whether or not we're going to move to another part of the state, and cleaning out the garage and attic and all those little places that are holding on to my childhood, and...<BR/><BR/>and it never ends. It's good to plan for the future, and it's very good to live in (and enjoy) the present. Sounds like you're right on track.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15769610505748900163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-14505757887262677142008-07-17T09:09:00.000-06:002008-07-17T09:09:00.000-06:00Honestly, it sounds like you're on the right track...Honestly, it sounds like you're on the right track toward Adulthood. Knowing that these things are important (babies, houses, financial security) is half the battle. <BR/><BR/>At least that's what I tell myself, as going back to school is a step that will delay all THREE for us.L Sasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09852624970958809824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-44522767531284559152008-07-17T09:06:00.000-06:002008-07-17T09:06:00.000-06:00Oh, fun! We are planning on selling the house next...Oh, fun! We are planning on selling the house next summer and MOVING to another town/possibly state and buying another house. CRAZY. Fun!<BR/><BR/>I am also in super retirement planning mode. No lie - I had a dream about reallocating my 401(k) contribution two nights ago. I am so boring!artemisiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12048259618106957687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-68696927394097194672008-07-17T09:04:00.000-06:002008-07-17T09:04:00.000-06:00Planning what to have for lunch. I should have a b...Planning what to have for lunch. I should have a bowl of Special K Red Berries. I want Taco Bell.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com