tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post4271667607790206388..comments2024-03-10T01:15:29.315-07:00Comments on Du Wax Loolu: What it's like to be fatJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15942269316108576622noreply@blogger.comBlogger117125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-68649291698291172832012-09-11T16:22:25.622-06:002012-09-11T16:22:25.622-06:00Whether or not they show it, everyone has things t...Whether or not they show it, everyone has things they don't like about themselves. The media is always trying to make us feel like we're not good enough; if they can make us feel like we NEED their products, then they're more likely to get our money. I haven't been overweight, but I still have plenty of things I don't like about myself. When I look through the magazines, I also feel jealous. <br /><br />I just don't want you to feel like you're alone in all this. It sounds like you have had some specific people in your life who have repeatedly put you down. Perhaps this could be family, classmates, "friends". If it is possible to cut these people out of your life, I would definitely do so. I have also had people in my life who claimed to care about me, but at the same time they made it their mission to make me feel terrible about myself. They targeted so many different aspects about me. I think self-confidence is something that really starts at home and at a young age. If you have never had the chance to build self-confidence because certain people have always cut you down, then it's hard to build it on your own. I had to cut several people out of my life entirely before I started getting some self-confidence...and it has been a tough road that I'm still on. Gradually I have started realizing that those terrible things people said to me weren't true at all -- so what my face looks like this, I have dark hair here, I've got a lot of zits there...none of that matters or defines me as a person. For me, the more I focus on the negative things people have said about me, the more I feel out of control of my life. <br /><br />I know developing self-confidence is soooooo much easier said than done. For me, getting away from negative people in my life was also extremely difficult, and it has taken me years and years to do so. Sometimes, you can't get away from certain negative people -- perhaps they are your family, someone you work with, someone you go to school with. I wish there was advice I could give on how to ignore these people. It's a terrible situation to not be able to get away from people who are verbally and emotionally abusive. The best advice I could give is to try to associate as much as you can with people who make you feel good about yourself and who reassure you that NO ONE has the right to make you feel bad about yourself. For me, finding these kinds of people has taken years. I think the best thing for me personally was when I started seeing a counselor who specialized in abuse of a kinds, including verbal and emotional. Hearing on a regular basis that people did NOT have the right to treat me this way was very empowering. It has taken time, but I am starting to see a glimmer of hope ahead, which is much more than I can say for the past few years. <br /><br />I don't know how much all of this applies to you, but I hope some of it has been helpful. For the parts that haven't been helpful, take them and toss them out the window. YOU have the right to feel good about yourself, and NO ONE has the right to make you feel otherwise!RandomBloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10023764397807224420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-82143458956765395252012-06-12T22:56:07.637-06:002012-06-12T22:56:07.637-06:00great post jess,
well donegreat post jess,<br /><br /><br />well doneNeuse River North Carolinahttp://yacht-decking.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-59352496034715825952011-05-14T02:36:08.399-06:002011-05-14T02:36:08.399-06:00You made some good points there. I did a search on...You made some good points there. I did a search on the topic and found most people will agree with your blog.Penis Enlargement Pillshttp://www.factspenisenlargement.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-33375939379208001712011-01-11T18:10:02.802-07:002011-01-11T18:10:02.802-07:00This is a great post. I have a million stories lik...This is a great post. I have a million stories like yours that I have never had the guts to write about. It's the one topic I stay away from on my blog, despite being something I deal with daily. <br /><br />Well done.Three Cats and a Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16757969648902689785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-37363145533104880762009-11-16T13:05:43.832-07:002009-11-16T13:05:43.832-07:00I totally got you when you were talking about how ...I totally got you when you were talking about how everyone thinks pluz sized people are lazy and weak-willed. I am a teenage girl and I have a thyroid condition that makes me overweight. In high school I weigh so much more than everyone I know. But it is impossible for me to lose more than a couple pounds at a time. Last year I was so depressed with myself I pretty much went anorexic, again, nothing happened. Don't you want to wear a sign on your shirt that says, "I'm trying to lose the weight, ok?" I do, and I give you much props for writing this because I am so there it's not even funny. You did awesome, thanks for writing this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-41140241087941256542009-10-23T10:52:07.439-06:002009-10-23T10:52:07.439-06:00I never imagined how your life can be this hard ju...I never imagined how your life can be this hard just because your look doesn't fit the society,but I had a theory I apply since high school that every overweight girl has tremendous something about her, weather personality,intelligence or kindness..the net result:I have great friends which their look can't stop them from being admirable..just like you seems to be :)Dolcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04737159050436811482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-16304291182977808052009-10-13T09:48:28.114-06:002009-10-13T09:48:28.114-06:00This was eye opening for me. My mother was very o...This was eye opening for me. My mother was very overweight for my entire childhood, until she lost ~150 lbs through Weight Watchers 7 years ago (and she's been hungry ever since - she has struggled a lot), and as a child I was very insensitive to her. I didn't understand. I am beginning to understand, and I wish that we had a more open dialogue about what it is like - me and my mother, and also as a society. From my perspective (for whatever that is worth), it's starting to be less of a taboo subject for pop culture, and I hope discourse such as this will become more common (and high profile) as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-26795946027088895992009-09-16T16:39:12.430-06:002009-09-16T16:39:12.430-06:00Everything you said is poignantly true. As a perso...Everything you said is poignantly true. As a person who is 5'6'' and WAS 240 and now is 110, I can truly tell you that if you have body issues, fat or skinny, you will always feel insecure and unhappy. Sure, I have happy moments. Especially now that I am constantly referred to as the skinny girl. However, it doesn't matter, people still talk about you behind your back. And sure, I used to WISH for this sort of gossip...but now that it's happening, you still feel yourself trapped in a void you can't ever fill. I truly wish you all the best, and hope that you can conquer whatever goal you pursue. However, may I just suggest that sometimes the grass may be a bit greener on the other side, but it still wilts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-57347156789467741022009-09-01T16:21:04.010-06:002009-09-01T16:21:04.010-06:00Thank you for writing this. I'm a college stud...Thank you for writing this. I'm a college student and I have struggled with my weight my entire life. No one who has never been overweight can possibly understand what it's like. You can't sit on someone's lap and you can't give someone a piggy back ride. You can't go to pool parties; you wear pants when it's 90 degrees out because shorts are too revealing; when you're getting basketball jerseys you're the only one writing XL on the sheet. Your post opened my eyes to even more limitations that I hadn't even realized. I'm really motivated now to lose this weight that has been holding me back for years.Sunny Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01257170154909427140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-50258920187911399142009-07-25T21:09:24.871-06:002009-07-25T21:09:24.871-06:00Thank you for writing this. I feel like it has hel...Thank you for writing this. I feel like it has helped me see into the life and feelings of some of my most cherished loved ones. <br />You have done a great job in writing this, and as a person who has wondered what it is like to be overweight, it has helped me empathise better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-69719273518111497502009-02-14T00:22:00.000-07:002009-02-14T00:22:00.000-07:00Millionaire makerHow many of you would like to kno...<A HREF="http://www.FreeMillionaireMakerDVD.com/go" REL="nofollow">Millionaire maker</A><BR/><BR/>How many of you would like to know more about earning thousand of dollars. We have searched greatly in this regard and uncovered the real truth behind <A HREF="http://www.FreeMillionaireMakerDVD.com/go" REL="nofollow">making money online</A>.sanjayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05726863023531028676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-63661886655140974742009-02-11T15:39:00.000-07:002009-02-11T15:39:00.000-07:00Wow. Thank you for writing this. It speaks the w...Wow. Thank you for writing this. It speaks the words that are so hard for so many of us to say. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. <BR/>http://nosuchthingasjustyouraveragegirl.blogspot.com/Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16199686615752726592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-38501808491983804172008-12-28T21:51:00.000-07:002008-12-28T21:51:00.000-07:00I like that you included the part about not making...I like that you included the part about not making people uncomfortable.. along with everything else, as it was all excellent.<BR/><BR/>That's definitely something I think about. Don't talk about it, don't make comments about clothing or food or working out. When I forget and I do, people's eyes go straight to my stomach, and then away awkwardly. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for this whole entry, it's amazing.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147163030704332069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-50030072727289869922008-07-25T19:02:00.000-06:002008-07-25T19:02:00.000-06:00Beautiful, and very brave. I stand on the "after" ...Beautiful, and very brave. I stand on the "after" end, but I have to stay I still feel some of those things. While I was losing my weight I kept waiting and waiting to "get out of it" but you never really do. At least I didn't. I still feel like my weight is an elephant in the room, even when no one there knows I used to be overweight. And I still don't believe my husband tells me I am beautiful because he means it. At times I don't trust my beautiful friends. And I don't look back on it and think how awful it was, because it still IS awful. I am and always was that overweight girl who boys prank called on the weekend. Those feelings don't change once you lose the weight. Even today, eight years later - I read your words and it is me you are writing about. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-20998355765526762542008-07-25T18:59:00.000-06:002008-07-25T18:59:00.000-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13145556227715044411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-78381762240430414362008-07-10T11:17:00.000-06:002008-07-10T11:17:00.000-06:00I just learned about you over at Ask and Receive, ...I just learned about you over at Ask and Receive, and I just want to reiterate all the above comments: You have just described my life. Thank you for being so relative and honest, and for writing this.Rassleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12370070146085209687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-67250397439475526732008-07-05T19:51:00.000-06:002008-07-05T19:51:00.000-06:00Just discovered your blog through La's, and had to...Just discovered your blog through La's, and had to say that this was a really, really great post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-18982280047722870692008-04-23T20:17:00.000-06:002008-04-23T20:17:00.000-06:00Thank you for writing this and for having the cour...Thank you for writing this and for having the courage to write it. I am fighting my own battle now and its a tough one. Its an intensely private one as well. I've lost a lot of weight before and gained it back. This time though, its time for a permanent change and I'm ready for it. Thank you, thank you, thank you.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07840515813374990142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-23925619061697632002008-04-10T01:44:00.000-06:002008-04-10T01:44:00.000-06:00I never realized that other people feel the exact ...I never realized that other people feel the exact same way as I do. Thank you for sharing that as I'm not that brave.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-64811621545805244582008-04-02T16:32:00.000-06:002008-04-02T16:32:00.000-06:00This post is why blogs were invented. So that one ...This post is why blogs were invented. So that one day, you could write these words and I could read them and say thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-42086251253980092732008-03-10T20:42:00.000-06:002008-03-10T20:42:00.000-06:00Oh My God, its me your talking about me. Jess you ...Oh My God, its me your talking about me. Jess you write the truth!<BR/>Love every word!<BR/>JackieAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09483855200103230616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-72315601757336503032008-02-20T01:34:00.000-07:002008-02-20T01:34:00.000-07:00Found you thru Flibberty, so glad I did. This pos...Found you thru Flibberty, so glad I did. This post is amazing and unfortunately heartbreakingly true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-73469032132837994262008-02-16T01:05:00.000-07:002008-02-16T01:05:00.000-07:00Hello,I love your blog. I had been a sexy size six...Hello,<BR/>I love your blog. I had been a sexy size six most of my adult life, that is until after my son was born. Now, I am 178 lbs at 5ft 4 in. I HATE MY BODY NOW. I should not complain because I have not endured the pain you described, but yet I feel that I totally understand you. I am desperate to lose this weight. I wont feel attractive again until I do. I appreciate your candid, honest expression of your world. I will be creating a blog that will document my struggle and journey with weight loss. I would love to post a link on my page that leads to your blog. I hope that is ok with you. I want my readers to be blessed with having read your story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-88482067503757883132008-02-08T15:48:00.000-07:002008-02-08T15:48:00.000-07:00Oh my gosh, Jess. I have seen you commenting on o...Oh my gosh, Jess. I have seen you commenting on other sites I love and I don't know why I didn't click over until today. Because, seriously, are we the same person? (I think we have the same body-type, same thoughts, etc etc). I heart you, and I know exactly how you feel. Except I have never been brave enough to post about it. Perhaps this will inspire me to try. (Um, also, how did you lose 50 pounds?)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2119996845182958780.post-21284192616658633812008-02-07T09:21:00.000-07:002008-02-07T09:21:00.000-07:00wow, that was so powerful and very well written.wow, that was so powerful and very well written.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com